Women in particular are wonderful at intuitively knowing what others are thinking and feeling and at perceiving the right way to care for others and how to put them at ease.
This is a WONDERFUL trait and service to the world, however when we let this gets out of balance most of us spend too much time worrying about what others think about us, how people feel about our life and our choices, if people like us, if we’re good enough, thin enough, smart enough, pretty enough…
if we’re perfect enough…
As a result we can end up living our lives to make other people happy, making decisions that please other people, and ending up with lives that have nothing to do with our desires, dreams or purpose here on earth.
Strength, decisiveness, grit and persistence are not gender-specific traits, and I can’t tell you how many times a woman that I’ve been training or doing nutrition coaching for has been concerned about ‘getting too much muscle’, ‘getting too bulky’ or ‘getting too strong’ to be found attractive.
Women, I encourage you to not live your lives for the sole purpose of what will make those around you love and accept you or for what will make you ‘attractive.’ That is an extremely weak motivator that will not stand strong enough to get your butt to the gym when you didn’t sleep well the night before or to keep you away from those brownies when you’re trying to claim your health and waistline back.
Find your purpose, your service, your calling and your strength. Don’t spend your precious mental energy and brain space on people pleasing- people will be inspired by you being unapologetically and passionately you. And that will grant others permission to be fully themselves in your presence.
So who are you? Who do you want to be? What do you stand for? I use the gym and my lifestyle choices to continually sharpen my commitment to myself, my decision to push through tough times and to finish strong.
It’s not about where you start, what other people think, what judgments they have about your dreams and choices, it’s about becoming a better, more focused and more resilient ‘you’ everyday.
It’s about being committed to being #strongereveryday
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